Making the Transition Knowing if You’re Ready Determining if Your Relationship is Ready Community Q&A There can come a time in your relationship where you want to make the transition from just dating to officially being in a relationship.If you feel like you and your partner are going in a great direction, you may want to take it to the next level.If you’re struggling with this, here’s a short list to help you go from a casual date to a serious mate (so lame, I know).1) Be Independent Some “experts” say you should act unavailable.” explaining how proper dating has been replaced with casual hook ups and ill-defined relationships. And when I say I’ve learnt this the hard way, I mean it.Online dating, and our ability to be in constant contact with everyone we know via text, email or social media make us unwilling to commit to one person, and more likely to want to hedge our bets. In an article I wrote earlier this year about modern dating, I used the example of a man I’d been sleeping with for over a year, who got cross when I referred to him as my boyfriend.
But that doesn't stop us from taking a good one for granted sometimes, or wondering if there is someone else out there.It’s true that being overly available can seem desperate or unattractive, but the last thing you want to do is play dating games.If you’re suffering from no-life syndrome, step back and ask yourself why you aren’t having fun on your own. Play the sport you like or pursue one of your interests. Insecure people push for serious relationships for the security it brings, and people can sense that.Sure, acting unavailable might work at the casual dating stage, but what happens after that? Learn an instrument, a language, or take dancing lessons. 2) Set Boundaries Why would someone commit to you if they’re getting everything they want without the commitment?How long before insecurities, neediness, and jealousy creep in? If you’re struggling to find people willing to move beyond casual dating, there’s a good chance you’re giving too much.