When I was 15, I was dating a 28-year-old (cue gasping).
Looking back at that relationship now, seven years later, there are so many things I wish someone had told me before I decided to become the Lolita to this guy’s Humbert².
Many parents are apprehensive when their teenagers start to date, and that apprehension is exacerbated if a son or daughter chooses to date an older peer.
Rather than banning the relationship, you might consider explicitly sharing your concerns with your daughter, while also acknowledging her good feelings about the relationship.
I thought I was totally prepared to deal with the daily realities of having a boyfriend who was older than me by a decade-plus, which turned out to be less than correct.
Before I get into the real nitty gritty, though, a few caveats.
First, being attracted to older guys is completely and totally normal.
Our 15-1/2 year-old daughter wants to date an almost 18-year-old boy. While your daughter’s desire to date an older boy may not match your view of whom she should date, short of keeping her home and removing her access to technology, you’re unlikely to block her from being in contact with him.
He may have a stable life and be a serious kinda guy which may be a welcome relief from frat boys and typical college morons she's dated in the past or something.
Or are you concerned that she’ll get overly attached to a relationship that will end or change once this boy leaves for college?
Once you’ve clarified your own concerns, find a calm time to discuss them with your daughter.
Something along the lines of, “we want to support your decision to date someone who makes you feel good, but we’re concerned that the difference in your ages might [insert your concern here].
However cool it makes you is exactly how lame it makes him.